Why the first weeks are so intense
A breakup takes away more than a person. It takes away routines, plans, a shared future and a daily sense of being known. It is normal for the mind to loop, for sleep and appetite to suffer and for feelings to swing from relief to grief within the same hour. None of that means you are doing it wrong.
How a listener helps
A listener gives you space to say the unedited version: the anger, the guilt, the things you would never post. They will not tell you to "just move on". They help you slow down, name what you are feeling and notice what you actually need right now, whether that is rest, distance or a plan for the weekend.
If you would rather have practical direction, such as how to handle contact, how to deal with shared friends, or how to rebuild routine, a relationship coach can help you think it through step by step. Coaching is offered for guidance and reflection and does not guarantee any outcome.
Small things that help while you heal
Keep a few basics steady: sleep, food, daylight and movement. Mute or limit contact for a while rather than deciding forever. Write the message you want to send, then leave it unsent. Tell one trusted person how you are really doing. And if the sadness feels too heavy to carry or you have thoughts of harming yourself, reach out to Tele-MANAS on 14416 or call 112 straight away.